Christmas time memories…

This Christmas I was reflecting on the family tradition of lunch on Christmas Day.

It is a day when everyone who is available on my Dad’s side of the family comes together and celebrates Christmas.

The tradition started before I was even born as out of my cousin’s, I’m the third youngest but this tradition has been going for over 60 years with my older cousin’s.

When I was born, we’d go see my Mum’s family for Christmas lunch and then go to my Dad’s parents, my Grandparents house, for Christmas Dinner, which was always a bbq cooked by Grandpa and being Australia, we would eat outside in the backyard and then after eating some Christmas pudding (Grandpa would put sixpences in the pudding too) and custard, we’d even get a bottle of Coke from Grandpa to drink in glass bottles, not plastic bottles like now and you needed a bottle cap opener because there was no screw top cap. After we had our bottles of Coke, my cousin’s and I would go for a walk around the area and wish everyone we saw a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year as we walked the streets going to one of the many playgrounds in the area. Thank you Daylight Savings time as well for the play time at the playground!

As time went on and Grandpa and Grandma got too old to host the family Christmas Dinner, an Aunty and Uncle took over. They only lived 3 doors down from my Grandparents home, which was convenient as their fridge was used to store some of the food to be eaten on Christmas Day.

As the years have gone by, the family Christmas Dinner has now become the family Christmas lunch with everyone who is available comes for lunch.

My Uncle and Aunty, they hosted all of us for Christmas Dinner, which one year turned into Christmas lunch and from that Christmas to now, it has remained Christmas Day lunch, for many years before my Aunty decided she had enough and felt someone else should take it over.

Another Uncle and Aunty, they hosted all of us for 3 Christmas Day lunches before one of my cousin’s said they will hold Christmas lunch at their house.

So now Christmas lunch is rotated around the homes of 3 of my cousin’s as they have the indoor space and backyard space to have us all there.

When my second cousin’s were born, that started new traditions in the family as they grew and embraced what is family Christmas lunch and now they are adults, I hope they continue keeping the lunch as a tradition, especially when they meat future partners and start having children of their own.

Over the last 53 years, the time I have been alive, we’ve had loved one’s pass away, there has been family breakdowns and family separations where some members of the family no longer come to family Christmas lunch but I still think about every single person not there joining us.

I think about the people who have passed away; Grandpa and Grandma, both my parents, 2 of my aunties – one of them passed away earlier this year and this is the first Christmas without her, a “cousin in law”. I think about those who don’t come to Christmas lunch even though they have a long standing invitation but don’t join in – family breakdowns can be a bitch but in this situation, I completely understand why and I hope all the people involved are happy with their chosen families, that’s all I ask for.

On Christmas Day, I love cracking open a bon bon to read the bad jokes, wear the paper hat and see what crap toy there is. I love eating Christmas pudding with custard and ice cream, I love singing along to the music playing as we gather and getting into a singing war with who can sing a song better, my cousin’s and I or the younger generation, especially the song, Do they Know it’s Christmas?

I remember when my Aunty and Uncle took over from Grandpa and Grandma having the family at their house for Christmas Dinner and all the cousins, we’d be in my cousin’s bedroom singing along with the songs playing loudly on her record player. Do they Know It’s Christmas? was a favourite when it first was released all those years ago and we cousin’s sang it loudly.  Sorry Next Gen Cousins but we’re always going to sing that song better than you ever will!

I hope that when my cousin’s and I are no longer around, that their kids and future generations keep the tradition of Christmas family lunch going and I know they will because they are tight and best friends.

What family traditions do you have at Christmas time? Let me know in the comments.

Merry Christmas everyone from my family to yours.

Until next time

Kaye x

Social media…

I come from a generation who lived before social media was even thought of. Our social networking was talking to our next door neighbours, actually going to visit people at their house, speaking with people in the supermarket aisles or in the checkout line, conversing with the people we bumped into regularly in the street, or picking up the landline phone to call someone. We didn’t have social media and we didn’t have mobile (cell) phones back then, so I got to do all my crazy stuff without it being posted on social media for the world to hear about it.

My first plunge into social media was with Facebook in 2010, then a few months later I created a Twitter (now X) account and over the years I have accounts on many social media platforms. Some social media platforms, I have multiple accounts.

So here in 2024, I have social media accounts on Facebook, Twitter (Dear Elon Musk, I hate the name X and so I refuse to call your app that, signed me), Instagram, Threads, Snapchat, Bluesky, Clapper, Twitch, Rumble, YouTube, Discord, WhatsApp, Tumblr, Linkedin, Pinterest, Reddit, Messenger, Favorited and of course TikTok.

Some of the apps you probably haven’t heard of as some of these apps are relatively new and others don’t have the huge number of users unlike the mainstream popular apps have.

Why do I have so many social networking apps I hear you ask? Well, I wished I had a great answer but I hear about an app and if I think it’s interesting, I have to find out more and the best way for me to do that is to create an account for that app. I can only learn so much about the different apps by listening to other people talk about a particular app, or find out what information there is from Google.

There is however a content creator on TikTok who does livestreams and he’s on multiple platforms and he challenged his regulars to follow him on at least one other platform, or to follow him on all the platforms he’s on. Several of us regulars opted to follow him on all the platforms he’s on as he thought no one would take him up on that challenge, so he made it a dare to follow him on all the platforms. Apparently there were a few of us who if you dare us to do something, it’s game on, we’re going to do it! Lol

I’ve met some really wonderful people from all over the world through social media, so much so that they have become family. I’ve also met some of the most entitled, toxic, drama filled a$$hol3s as well on social media who have earned their rightful place on a blocked list but the good people outnumber the bad ones.

I enjoy learning about people, I enjoy seeing the parts of the world they live in, I enjoy talking to people and it’s all in real time. Whether I’m watching a livestream and typing comments in the chat, or in a guest box talking with people, it fascinates me as social media in general has made the world a smaller place to live.

There are however some aspects of social media I do not like. I detest the keyboard warrior’s who hide behind their keyboards, the trolls, the bullies, toxic people who love to create drama that break friendships or groups. What happened to simply agreeing to disagree about something? Or just being kind and respectful of other people’s opinions? Or be open enough and willing to see another person’s point of view without forcing your own point of view onto others?

When I joined TikTok in June 2022, TikTok was still a great app, then in 2023, TikTok went down hill big time as more people were doing battles by then and people opted to give up their jobs to make a living doing battles because it’s easy money, all you need is big gifters to support your battles. There’s now more bullies and keyboard warrior’s who hide behind faceless profile pictures on burner accounts. Toxic people are on the rise as well on the app.

One of the things that makes me always laugh though is how many people want tons of followers because they think that having a large number of followers makes them look popular. They post nothing, they follow no one, they aren’t known people, they contribute nothing in making the world a better place to live or contribute to making people’s lives better, they just want followers for clout in feeding their own ego’s all because they think that having a large number of followers makes them look impressive as a status symbol.

One thing for me about social media, I have never been about how many friends I have on Facebook or how many followers I can get on any of my socials. I don’t even follow everyone back who follows me. I don’t accept all the friends requests I receive on Facebook either, well the legitimate friend requests mainly, not the scammers or fakes as I remove them automatically. I have never been about winning any kind of popularity contest and never will. I’m about quality over quantity and making genuine connections with people. Even when people unfriend me on Facebook or decide to unfollow me, my attitude is “it’s their loss”. I simply don’t have an ego, I don’t do drama, I don’t do fake friends, I don’t do toxicity (okay, we can all exhibit toxic traits but if someone is totally toxic in how they interact and engage with people, I’m definitely out as I have absolutely no time for toxic people). If someone unfollows me, I will unfollow right back. I do have my boundaries that I will not compromise on.

There are people I have made true friendships with on the socials and those people are on my Facebook. Facebook is my inner sanctum as that is where I share parts of my life I don’t share anywhere else. It’s where I have my family and my real life friends and if a social media friend makes it into my Facebook feed, then they know they are family and I trust that person just as they trust me when they share parts of their life.

I’m a big believer though of the age old adage of don’t post on social media anything you don’t want the world to see. That works for me as I’m never going to post anything that I don’t want to share with the world because once it’s on social media, you can delete a post but somewhere on the internet, that post will still remain.

I love social media for not only connecting with people from around the world but I also love it for finding out what is happening in the world. I enjoy social media and finding some sleep sounds, quiet music or watch something relaxing on nights when I am unable to fall asleep. Social media has it’s advantages along with its disadvantages.

Whether you’re on social media yourself or not someone who does social media, whether you like social media or not, it is definitely something that will be staying around for a long time to come.

I’m kayezee71 on all my socials, maybe I’ll see you all soon somewhere in Social Media Land sometime soon, you never know.

Until next time

Kaye

I remember when I was young…

When I was a child growing up during the 1970’s, they were fun times and they were simpler times, easier times, they were pretty good times. I have a lot of good memories from my childhood which I will share here as they are wonderful memories I have and will always stay with me. Here’s some of my memories from my childhood.

Every Sunday Mum, Dad and I would see my Grandparents. One week we’d go see my Mum’s Dad, my Grampa I called him, Granma passed away when I was 4, so I didn’t really get to know her growing up but every second Sunday, we’d go see Grampa and have Sunday Tea (Dinner) with him, a beautiful 3 course meal which usually included soup, a roast meal and dessert. My Grampa definitely knew his way around a kitchen and whatever he cooked or prepared, that was always delicious! The other Sunday, we’d go see Grandpa and Grandma, my Dad’s parents and have afternoon tea with them. Grandpa being a baker, he’d always bake a cake and there would always be Arnott’s Shapes biscuits on the table as well and what we didn’t eat, I got to take home with me. That box was emptied out by the time we got home as I’d be in the back seat eating that box of Arnott’s Shapes.

Cars during the 1970’s didn’t have seat belts, or if a car did have seat belts, it was usually the driver and the front seat passenger who had seat belts, the backseat had no seat belts in the car. It seems safety wasn’t a major concern for backseat passengers during the 70’s. I remember a friend of my Dad’s who had a Holden Sandman panel van, there was nothing more fun than siting in the back of that panel van as a kid, no seat belt on and with the top half of the rear door up, the wind in your while driving around town.

Growing up, I was a real tomboy; playing with dolls was not my thing. I had a couple of dolls and a couple imitation Barbie’s but I just never played with them. Now if you gave me a Matchbox or Hot Wheels car, I would play with them happily for hours on end with drag races down the hallway, smash up (demolition) derby’s, police chases, you name it, I loved my collection of Matchbox and Hot Wheels cars, I could entertain myself for hours.

In my street, there were 3 of us kids who were the same age and we’d play “Charlie’s Angels” using the 3 houses and re-inacting the episode we watched of Charlie’s Angels the night before. One friend would play Kris, another friend would play Sabrina and I was Kelly. To this day, sometimes we call each other by our “Charlie’s Angels” names. I had a dog also, a white poodle and he got to be “Charlie”.

The universal code during the 70’s was when the streetlights came on, you got yourself home quick smart. I’d always be across the road at a friend’s house and we’d be playing outside, as soon as those streetlights came on, even if we were in the middle of something, we quickly said our goodbyes to each other and I’d run across the street to home.

During the summer months, I’d generally start a game of street cricket with the neighbours. All I had to do was go out onto middle of the street, which was a quiet street generally with my cricket bat, ball and the rubbish bin and start hitting the ball with the bin as stumps. The neighbours who saw me through their windows, they would slowly come out and the game was started. When a car was coming down the street, someone would call out “car” and we’d move to the side of the road, with either the batsman or the wicket keeper grabbing one bin and the bowler would grab the other bin, which one of the neighbours would grab theirs to use to mark the other end of our “cricket pitch”. There’d be at least 8 houses of immediate neighbours playing street cricket most times it was played.

Christmas was always Christmas lunch with my Grampa (Mum’s Dad), Mum’s brother, aunty, cousin, Dad, Mum and me. Sometimes one of my great uncle’s (Grampa’s brother) and great aunty joined us. We’d have lunch and we’d exchange presents and spread the Christmas cheer. My Aunty, every Christmas without fail would sing “I’m dreaming of a white Christmas”, her favourite song. We’d spend several hours celebrating Christmas and then during the afternoon, we’d part company and then Dad, Mum and I would go to my Grandma and Grandpa’s house for Christmas Tea (Dinner). At Grandma and Grandpa’s there’d be more family gathered there with my grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. I remember every Christmas Grandpa would give all of us kids a small glass bottle of Coke to drink. You needed a bottle top opener to open those bottles, no screw tops back then. After dinner, my cousins and I would go to a neighbourhood playground and play on the equipment and anyone we came across on our walk to the playground, we would wish them a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. In Australia, it’s Summer and daylight savings time, so we can enjoy being outside on Christmas Day.

One of the things I loved doing at night time while Mum and Dad were watching TV in the lounge room was to make a “blankie fort” using a couple of blankets draped over the back of both of their chairs as they sat next to each other in lounge room. I would grab a couple of kitchen chairs and put them behind Mum and Dad’s chairs and make a pretty cool blanket tent behind them. There I could colour in my colouring books, play with my Matchbox and Hot Wheels cars, build something with Lego and enjoy hanging out in my blankie fort.

Friday night dinner was always night fish and chip night from the local fish and chip night. During the 1970’s we didn’t have all the fast food options we have today and there was no having a ton of take away food either as the dinner was always home cooked meal. There were no dishes to wash up either as Mum, Dad and I would eat fish and chips straight from the pack of wrapped up fish and chips. Sometimes I’d get a Chiko Roll to go with my fish and chips. My mum wasn’t the best cook, so I really loved fish and chip Friday nights the best.

As a Christmas present for my 5th birthday, I remember getting a red bicycle with white tyres, I had never seen a bike with white tyres before, so I felt really special getting this particular bike. The make was Dolly. I spent hours riding around the neighbourhood on that bike going to see my friends, riding to the local shops to pick up some items for Mum, or just riding the bike around the neighbourhood. When I grew out of the bike and it became too small for me, it was given away. I hope that the child who got the bike after me had just as much fun as I did riding it around the place.

That’s just a few of my memories I hold dear about my childhood and now I’m feeling nostalgic, so if you want to find me, I’ll be inside my blankie fort colouring in, or playing with my Matchbox and Hot Wheels cars, or my Lego.

 What memories do you have growing up as a child?

Until next time

Kaye

 

 

TV Times…

Wow, I haven’t done a post in a while… life happens but here I am making a new post for you to read…

Who remembers TV back before all the reality shows took over? Remember sitting down and watching a tv show that had a story which featured your favourite TV characters? I do.

I have many streaming services and I binge watch a lot of TV shows I remember watching from when I was younger from the 70’s, 80’s, 90’s and shows that were before my time from the 60’s.

I love escaping into a TV show and being invested with my favourite TV characters from my favourite shows and getting involved with watching them.

A lot of the characters become like family or a friend in the shows I watch as I care for them and take me into their world of TV Show Land.

Even when a character dies, I feel like I’ve lost a family member or a friend.

I don’t enjoy “reality” shows as they have nothing to do with reality as it’s all fake. They are obviously scripted and the people who appear on these shows, they are compartmentalised into stereotypical parts because there’s always the bitch/ass hole, the complainer, the backstabber, the person of colour, someone who is in the lgbtqi community, the crier, etc, depending on what is needed to help make the show more interesting for ratings purposes. Filled with people wanting their 5 minutes of fame.

Reality TV is also cheaper to make than a drama or a comedy series that goes for a half an hour or an hour.

For me, “reality” TV is also too predictable as you can guess what is going to happen before it actually happens as it is all scripted.

Am I the only one who misses good TV shows? You know, like Mission Impossible, Bewitched, The Brady Bunch, Little House on the Prairie, The Waltons, The Love Boat, Cagney and Lacey, The Rockford Files, Emergency!, CHiP’s, Beverly Hills 90210, Melrose Place, ER for example.

I enjoy Law and Order SVU, Chicago Police, Chicago Med and Chicago Fire, Blue Bloods, NCIS, NCIS Los Angeles, Hawaii 5-0 in recent TV show viewing, just to name a few.

I just hope that reality TV doesn’t completely take over and that is all that appears on our TV screens in the future.

I know there are streaming platforms to watch shows that interest me available but I cancelled all the subscription ones as they were costing me a fortune and jacking up their prices, so I only kept the ones that are free, they offer enough of what I’m interested in watching, when I want to watch. I know there are shows I will miss out on watching by not having the paid streaming platforms but that’s okay, the free one’s have enough content to keep me entertained.

Whether you enjoy all the reality shows or not, happy viewing.

Until next time,

Kaye

Generation X, the Awesome Generation…

Hands up if you were born between the years of 1965 – 1980… you are well and truly my people, the Generation X people. My generation.

As a Gen X myself, born in 1971, I love being a Gen X. I love how we know a lot of things to do with the generations that precedes us, The Greatest Generation – those born between 1901 – 1927, The Silent Generation – those born between 1928 – 1945 and The Baby Boomers – those born between 1965 – 1980 as they are our great grandparents, grandparents, great aunts, great uncles, parents, uncles, aunties but we also know a lot of stuff from the generations that succeeded us as well. We know about things to do with The Millennials or Generation Y – those born between 1981 – 1996, Generation Z – those born between 1997 – 2012 and the latest generation, Generation Alpha – those born between 2013 – 2025, as these are our children, nieces, nephews, grandchildren, great nieces, great nephews, our friends children.

We just have a lot of cross generational knowledge with being a Gen X.

Generation X was the last generation who played in the streets, we were the last generation to record songs from the radio onto a cassette tape, we were the first generation to play video games, we were the first generation to use personal computers, we could walk over a kilometre without complaining about not being driven to our destination, we were the last generation to go to our friends homes to see them, remember having to be home as soon as the streetlights came on? We learned how to work the VCR before anyone else, we lived without mobile (cell) phones, we were the first generation who had Sony Walkman’s, we were before the internet, we were the last generation to drive in cars without seatbelts, we were the first generation to use chatrooms, we only had 4 TV stations to choose from and TV stations closed at midnight, we didn’t have social media, the music was also the best.

Generation X is absolutely the best generation in my books.

Until next time

Kaye

Happy New Year 2024…

Goodbye 2023 and hello 2024… what a year 2023 was? 2023 was a tough year for many, including me with many of us facing the storms of life during the year that was but just like any storm, the storm stops raging eventually and the sun comes out again.

Personally, the year was indeed a rough year for me. Life happened in a big way. I learned a lot about myself and a lot about so called friends who ended up being fake friends and not being in my corner at all.

I learned who was in my circle and my circle got smaller as I removed people from my life who weren’t serving my greater good and were draining my energy or creating drama in my life through their own actions and drawing me into their drama.

I also distanced myself from certain people in my life and haven’t removed them completely.

This is what setting healthy boundaries is about. Life isn’t a popularity contest, you’re not going to get along with everyone in life. It’s healthy to have boundaries and either remove people out of your life who aren’t in your circle because not everyone is. There’s many people who will call you friend but will talk about you behind your back, or not show you support when you are going through a storm in life, there’s so called friends who are toxic, fake friends, friends will continuously disrespect you or badmouth you… these people are not your friends.

These are the people to release from your life, even on social media. Set healthy boundaries and have people who accept you for who you are and will show up when you need that support when life hits.

Surround yourself with people who get you and what you are about and don’t try to change you but they bring out the best in you.

It’s even okay to remove family members from your life as well. We need to be able to preserve our inner peace and just because someone is family, they can cause more issues for our inner peace than friends.

I’m okay about losing people in life, both in real life and on social media. I want people who bring out the best in me, people who understand me, people who will be there in both the calm days when the boat is in calm water and during the storms. The storms of life, this too shall pass but it’s worth knowing who is next to you in that boat; someone who will help you bail out the water if the boat starts leaking or someone who will go overboard and swim to shore, leaving you to bail out the water alone in that boat.

Yeah, I’m okay with my circle shrinking. I’m more about me and no longer about keeping certain people around in my circle because they simply have the label of family or friend. 2023 was a year of letting go.

2024 is going to be the year of keeping my circle small and making sure everyone who is in my circle is worth having there.

Until next time…

Kaye

True friendships…

Let me ask a question, what makes a friend and what makes a friendship? To me, to have a friend, first you need to be a friend. It’s a clichéd saying but it is a true saying.

I have a select small group of friends, real friend who I know have my back and are there through all times, the good and the rough times. I also have a lot of friends who are really just acquaintances. Then there are the fickle, fair weather friends who are only there when the going is good but are no where to be seen in the tough times.

As I get older, it’s more about quality over quantity with the friends I have as life isn’t a popularity contest and I just want to surround myself with people who are genuine in there friendship and are always around.

I had friends who would try and buy friendship with giving things to me but they always wanted something in return, it was never anything given because they were true friends who gave something out of the generosity of their heart but only given with an ulterior motive. Then there’s the so called friends who kept score on what they gave me as they felt it proved their friendship but felt as though I wasn’t being a true friend all because they expected something in return and try to guilt me into giving them something by telling me all the times they gave me something .

I give the people I consider friends things all the time but I never expect anything in return. I do it because I want to. I don’t make anyone feel obligated to reciprocate the gift giving, even if it’s just a cup of coffee, I never expect anything in return.

Then there are those who will tell you the things they think you want to hear, or pretend to be something they are not in trying to earn a friendship.

For me, I want friends who will be open and honest with me. I want friends who don’t gossip behind my back because if you have friends who talk with you about their friend behind their back, guess what? those people you call a friend, they are saying things about you to other people.

As I get older, I am in a place where I don’t want to deal with so called friends who are disingenuous, fake, full of drama, selfish, self absorbed, toxic or narcissistic people. I have let go of a lot of friends who fit into those categories as I want to be around kind, caring, nurturing people who are always there, who are real, trustworthy, provide a listening ear or a shoulder I can cry on and those make me laugh.

I want people around me that I don’t have to explain myself to, people who don’t judge, friends I can trust wholeheartedly and be trusted, so because of this, I don’t have a big circle of friends and that suits me fine.

Be true to yourself and surround yourself with the people who will serve your greater good and raise your vibration and not drain your energy by making you feel some kind of way just because you feel it necessary to have certain people as friends. Some people are not for you and are not the right fit for you and it is okay to release them as those people definitely not for you as they will only keep bringing you down to their level.

Until next time

Kaye

The things I do…

Recently I updated my mobile phone and changed providers, a task easier said than done. The time it took for my previous provider to release the phone number to the new provider took weeks. Usually it only take that long but in this instance all because of a process that wasn’t done when I received the new phone from the new provider, there was that delay.

During the 8 weeks it took to get the phone number released and for me to be able to use my new phone as a phone, I was using both my old mobile phone and the new one as I was using the new phone for everything else using wifi, thank you wifi. I also got used to having 2 phones and I liked it.

My new provider was my original provider but to get my last phone, I had to change providers but with the update, I wanted to go back to my original provider.

My last phone, I promised someone else that I would give it to them before I realised that I enjoyed the luxury of having 2 phones, as they needed a new phone as they had a really old phone which they needed to replace.

Once I was back to having one phone again, I was on the lookout for a good, reliable but a cheap phone to use as a second phone, which I found on Amazon as they have refurbished phones in top quality condition and most phones, unless they are the latest, they sell for a cheaper price.

So having updated my Samsung Galaxy S20 to a Samsung Galaxy S23 Plus, I went on Amazon and found a refurbished phone I wanted to buy, an iPhone. I have been curious for a long time about the whole iPhone thing and why people love them so much. I had looked at iPhone’s before I had bought a Samsung Galaxy S5… if you can’t tell, I’m a Samsung and Android girl but I’m open to owning other phone’s. The iPhone I found was an iPhone 13 and bought it.

The phone sellers on Amazon sell refurbished phone’s in good condition, screens get replaced and the phone’s are sold in the best condition possible but buyer beware, you do get what you pay for, so doing prior research on the phone you are interested in does pay off as there are people who have received phone’s with dents and scratches on the phone from wear and tear by the previous owners.

The iPhone I received didn’t have a scratch or a dent on it and it looked brand new out of the non original phone box. The battery condition was at 90%, so I knew I wouldn’t have an issue with battery problems either. I was definitely winning with this phone.

The iPhone I used the provider I left as I wanted the second phone to be under a different provider for when one provider has a technical issue, I have the use of the other phone. Both providers use the same phone tower’s though, so that could prove an issue but hey, I’ll deal with that when I have to. I also wanted the second phone to not be on a contract but prepaid.

I used to have a landline phone years ago before just solely using my mobile phone. The landline phone had an answering machine connected to it as well. Anyone I didn’t want to speak to, I used to give them the landline number as a lot of people don’t like leaving messages on an answering machine lol. Same with services who would sell phone numbers on to telemarketers, they would get the landline number as well. Then when I gave up the landline, I then would change a number in my mobile number so I didn’t have to speak with those I didn’t want to hear from lol.

What I use the second mobile phone for now is these callers and keep my primary phone for the people I want to talk to or need to talk with.

Note to self… put the iPhone on the Do Not Call register.

Does anyone else have a second phone and what do you use it for? I don’t want to know about illegal activities though lol as sometimes ignorance can be bliss lol.

Until next time

Kaye

No to bullying or toxic people…

Anyone who know me knows that I do not tolerate bullying in any kind of way. I do not tolerate the drama started by bullies or toxic people. I will not tolerate any person who enables those people to continue to do what they do by not calling out their bullshit behaviour in turning a blind eye to it in making the bullies and toxic people be accountable for the drama they start.

I do not tolerate those who start dramas and blame others for starting those dramas because they don’t have the ability to accept accountability and be responsible for their actions.

I do not tolerate bullies and toxic people who create drama and blame others for their dramas, then engage others to do their dirty work all because these bullies enjoy gaslighting and then knowing they will have flying monkeys do their dirty work for them as they seek attention.

On Tiktok recently, I have been caught up in the cross hairs of 2 narcissistic, manipulative, passive aggressive bullies who have caused dramas through their lies, their manipulation, their gaslighting, their looking for flying monkies who will side with them and do their dirty work for them because there are those who believe their lies and think these people are good people because they haven’t seen the other side of their personality. One of the people has a “chosen family” of Tiktokkers who turn a blind eye and allow this person to continue bullying others.

Both of these people have sent me direct messages accusing me of creating drama and telling me to stop telling lies to others about them as they do not do drama. These 2 people as narcissists will not see they are the ones who created the dramas they find themselves in and they are the ones who are telling lies all because they refuse to acknowledge they are responsible and need to be accountable and not blame everyone else as they are the ones gaslighting.

I will always stand up to those people who are bullies and who are toxic as I have no time for drama causing attention seekers, nor do I have time or the energy to deal with people who support the bullies and toxic people, so I have ended relationships with these people.

It doesn’t matter who the toxic people are in life, friends, including friends on social media or family even family, as family can be the most toxic people around, you need to put yourself first. You need to protect yourself from the toxic people in life so you can live your best life and be free of toxic people who cause emotional and psychological damage to people they interact with. Just because a toxic person is a family member or a friend, be true to yourself and know that even though you may love these people, you need to be able to set boundaries, or have the strength to walk away.

Until next time

Kaye

Making the most out of it…

Recently I had to do a sleep study… I had no actual symptoms but the doctor I see thought it would be a good idea after I marked high as a candidate for sleep apnoea on a check list… the questions asked could have covered basically anyone as having sleep apnoea as most people would fit into the categories asked but hey, the questionnaire said I had symptoms of sleep apnoea, so I had to undergo a sleep study.

I saw the sleep specialist a couple of weeks after being referred by the GP and they arranged for me to take an at home sleep study. I booked a date and time to pick up a sleep study kit for the at home sleep study.

The day of the sleep study, I went to the medical centre and picked up the kit and took it home.

That night, I followed the instructions on how to place all the wires and electrodes on my body before going to bed. I looked and felt like a lab rat once all the wires, electrodes and electronic devices were attached and ready to collect the data from my night of sleep.

I am no stranger in doing a sleep study as I’ve done one previously a few years ago, a hospital sleep study, which involved a night sleeping on the narrowest and hardest hospital bed I think that they could find for me to sleep on. There were more wires and electrodes attached that time and the wires were connected to a bigger box I had to wear but the memory is still in my mind like it was yesterday.

The following morning before 9am, I had to return the sleep study kit back to the sleep specialist centre, then wait for the results which were given several days later by the sleep specialist.

At the appointment with the sleep specialist, I was diagnosed with having severe sleep apnoea and I would need to have a CPAP machine. Oh joy… not.

I then had to book another appointment with another person who would help me choose a suitable face mask and CPAP machine for me to use.

I went home with a CPAP machine, an Airsense 10 Autoset and a full face mask. The first night using the face mask, a Resmed Airfit F20, I couldn’t stand it… I couldn’t stand the air blowing straight on my face, the feel of the full face mask on my face. That night was a interrupted night of sleep. In fact, I hated the mask so much, I took it off, turned off the machine in the very early hours of the morning and left it off to sleep.

That first night while struggling to get used to the machine and battling with the full face mask, which was a losing battle, I thought of giving my machine a name as something fun. Since this machine was going to be my new sleeping companion I have to sleep with, I had better get used to it. I also decided that the machine was a He as well as it looks like a male. After much thought, not really, I came up with the name “Colin” for my CPAP machine… call me weird for naming a machine if you must… but Colin is named after the inventor of the CPAP machine, an Australian by the name of Colin Sullivan in 1980, a fitting name I thought. Here’s the funny thing, now I can talk about Colin, my machine and have people think he’s my partner haha.

After having a word with the company I obtained the CPAP machine from, they provided me with 3 other masks to try in the hopes that one of them is more suitable for me.

The face mask I have been using is a nasal pillow which just sits under the nose, which is perfect for me as it’s not a full face mask, I don’t have air blowing on my face and I’m not feeling as though I’m suffocating. I’m also a person who sleeps with their mouth closed, so I don’t need to use a full face mask to cover both my nose and mouth.

It’s early days with using the CPAP machine but I hope the set up I have now with the face mask I am using, I hope I feel the benefits of it soon and get a better night of sleep than I was having after receiving the results from the sleep study.

Until next time

Kaye