Christmas time memories…

This Christmas I was reflecting on the family tradition of lunch on Christmas Day.

It is a day when everyone who is available on my Dad’s side of the family comes together and celebrates Christmas.

The tradition started before I was even born as out of my cousin’s, I’m the third youngest but this tradition has been going for over 60 years with my older cousin’s.

When I was born, we’d go see my Mum’s family for Christmas lunch and then go to my Dad’s parents, my Grandparents house, for Christmas Dinner, which was always a bbq cooked by Grandpa and being Australia, we would eat outside in the backyard and then after eating some Christmas pudding (Grandpa would put sixpences in the pudding too) and custard, we’d even get a bottle of Coke from Grandpa to drink in glass bottles, not plastic bottles like now and you needed a bottle cap opener because there was no screw top cap. After we had our bottles of Coke, my cousin’s and I would go for a walk around the area and wish everyone we saw a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year as we walked the streets going to one of the many playgrounds in the area. Thank you Daylight Savings time as well for the play time at the playground!

As time went on and Grandpa and Grandma got too old to host the family Christmas Dinner, an Aunty and Uncle took over. They only lived 3 doors down from my Grandparents home, which was convenient as their fridge was used to store some of the food to be eaten on Christmas Day.

As the years have gone by, the family Christmas Dinner has now become the family Christmas lunch with everyone who is available comes for lunch.

My Uncle and Aunty, they hosted all of us for Christmas Dinner, which one year turned into Christmas lunch and from that Christmas to now, it has remained Christmas Day lunch, for many years before my Aunty decided she had enough and felt someone else should take it over.

Another Uncle and Aunty, they hosted all of us for 3 Christmas Day lunches before one of my cousin’s said they will hold Christmas lunch at their house.

So now Christmas lunch is rotated around the homes of 3 of my cousin’s as they have the indoor space and backyard space to have us all there.

When my second cousin’s were born, that started new traditions in the family as they grew and embraced what is family Christmas lunch and now they are adults, I hope they continue keeping the lunch as a tradition, especially when they meat future partners and start having children of their own.

Over the last 53 years, the time I have been alive, we’ve had loved one’s pass away, there has been family breakdowns and family separations where some members of the family no longer come to family Christmas lunch but I still think about every single person not there joining us.

I think about the people who have passed away; Grandpa and Grandma, both my parents, 2 of my aunties – one of them passed away earlier this year and this is the first Christmas without her, a “cousin in law”. I think about those who don’t come to Christmas lunch even though they have a long standing invitation but don’t join in – family breakdowns can be a bitch but in this situation, I completely understand why and I hope all the people involved are happy with their chosen families, that’s all I ask for.

On Christmas Day, I love cracking open a bon bon to read the bad jokes, wear the paper hat and see what crap toy there is. I love eating Christmas pudding with custard and ice cream, I love singing along to the music playing as we gather and getting into a singing war with who can sing a song better, my cousin’s and I or the younger generation, especially the song, Do they Know it’s Christmas?

I remember when my Aunty and Uncle took over from Grandpa and Grandma having the family at their house for Christmas Dinner and all the cousins, we’d be in my cousin’s bedroom singing along with the songs playing loudly on her record player. Do they Know It’s Christmas? was a favourite when it first was released all those years ago and we cousin’s sang it loudly.  Sorry Next Gen Cousins but we’re always going to sing that song better than you ever will!

I hope that when my cousin’s and I are no longer around, that their kids and future generations keep the tradition of Christmas family lunch going and I know they will because they are tight and best friends.

What family traditions do you have at Christmas time? Let me know in the comments.

Merry Christmas everyone from my family to yours.

Until next time

Kaye x

I remember when I was young…

When I was a child growing up during the 1970’s, they were fun times and they were simpler times, easier times, they were pretty good times. I have a lot of good memories from my childhood which I will share here as they are wonderful memories I have and will always stay with me. Here’s some of my memories from my childhood.

Every Sunday Mum, Dad and I would see my Grandparents. One week we’d go see my Mum’s Dad, my Grampa I called him, Granma passed away when I was 4, so I didn’t really get to know her growing up but every second Sunday, we’d go see Grampa and have Sunday Tea (Dinner) with him, a beautiful 3 course meal which usually included soup, a roast meal and dessert. My Grampa definitely knew his way around a kitchen and whatever he cooked or prepared, that was always delicious! The other Sunday, we’d go see Grandpa and Grandma, my Dad’s parents and have afternoon tea with them. Grandpa being a baker, he’d always bake a cake and there would always be Arnott’s Shapes biscuits on the table as well and what we didn’t eat, I got to take home with me. That box was emptied out by the time we got home as I’d be in the back seat eating that box of Arnott’s Shapes.

Cars during the 1970’s didn’t have seat belts, or if a car did have seat belts, it was usually the driver and the front seat passenger who had seat belts, the backseat had no seat belts in the car. It seems safety wasn’t a major concern for backseat passengers during the 70’s. I remember a friend of my Dad’s who had a Holden Sandman panel van, there was nothing more fun than siting in the back of that panel van as a kid, no seat belt on and with the top half of the rear door up, the wind in your while driving around town.

Growing up, I was a real tomboy; playing with dolls was not my thing. I had a couple of dolls and a couple imitation Barbie’s but I just never played with them. Now if you gave me a Matchbox or Hot Wheels car, I would play with them happily for hours on end with drag races down the hallway, smash up (demolition) derby’s, police chases, you name it, I loved my collection of Matchbox and Hot Wheels cars, I could entertain myself for hours.

In my street, there were 3 of us kids who were the same age and we’d play “Charlie’s Angels” using the 3 houses and re-inacting the episode we watched of Charlie’s Angels the night before. One friend would play Kris, another friend would play Sabrina and I was Kelly. To this day, sometimes we call each other by our “Charlie’s Angels” names. I had a dog also, a white poodle and he got to be “Charlie”.

The universal code during the 70’s was when the streetlights came on, you got yourself home quick smart. I’d always be across the road at a friend’s house and we’d be playing outside, as soon as those streetlights came on, even if we were in the middle of something, we quickly said our goodbyes to each other and I’d run across the street to home.

During the summer months, I’d generally start a game of street cricket with the neighbours. All I had to do was go out onto middle of the street, which was a quiet street generally with my cricket bat, ball and the rubbish bin and start hitting the ball with the bin as stumps. The neighbours who saw me through their windows, they would slowly come out and the game was started. When a car was coming down the street, someone would call out “car” and we’d move to the side of the road, with either the batsman or the wicket keeper grabbing one bin and the bowler would grab the other bin, which one of the neighbours would grab theirs to use to mark the other end of our “cricket pitch”. There’d be at least 8 houses of immediate neighbours playing street cricket most times it was played.

Christmas was always Christmas lunch with my Grampa (Mum’s Dad), Mum’s brother, aunty, cousin, Dad, Mum and me. Sometimes one of my great uncle’s (Grampa’s brother) and great aunty joined us. We’d have lunch and we’d exchange presents and spread the Christmas cheer. My Aunty, every Christmas without fail would sing “I’m dreaming of a white Christmas”, her favourite song. We’d spend several hours celebrating Christmas and then during the afternoon, we’d part company and then Dad, Mum and I would go to my Grandma and Grandpa’s house for Christmas Tea (Dinner). At Grandma and Grandpa’s there’d be more family gathered there with my grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. I remember every Christmas Grandpa would give all of us kids a small glass bottle of Coke to drink. You needed a bottle top opener to open those bottles, no screw tops back then. After dinner, my cousins and I would go to a neighbourhood playground and play on the equipment and anyone we came across on our walk to the playground, we would wish them a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. In Australia, it’s Summer and daylight savings time, so we can enjoy being outside on Christmas Day.

One of the things I loved doing at night time while Mum and Dad were watching TV in the lounge room was to make a “blankie fort” using a couple of blankets draped over the back of both of their chairs as they sat next to each other in lounge room. I would grab a couple of kitchen chairs and put them behind Mum and Dad’s chairs and make a pretty cool blanket tent behind them. There I could colour in my colouring books, play with my Matchbox and Hot Wheels cars, build something with Lego and enjoy hanging out in my blankie fort.

Friday night dinner was always night fish and chip night from the local fish and chip night. During the 1970’s we didn’t have all the fast food options we have today and there was no having a ton of take away food either as the dinner was always home cooked meal. There were no dishes to wash up either as Mum, Dad and I would eat fish and chips straight from the pack of wrapped up fish and chips. Sometimes I’d get a Chiko Roll to go with my fish and chips. My mum wasn’t the best cook, so I really loved fish and chip Friday nights the best.

As a Christmas present for my 5th birthday, I remember getting a red bicycle with white tyres, I had never seen a bike with white tyres before, so I felt really special getting this particular bike. The make was Dolly. I spent hours riding around the neighbourhood on that bike going to see my friends, riding to the local shops to pick up some items for Mum, or just riding the bike around the neighbourhood. When I grew out of the bike and it became too small for me, it was given away. I hope that the child who got the bike after me had just as much fun as I did riding it around the place.

That’s just a few of my memories I hold dear about my childhood and now I’m feeling nostalgic, so if you want to find me, I’ll be inside my blankie fort colouring in, or playing with my Matchbox and Hot Wheels cars, or my Lego.

 What memories do you have growing up as a child?

Until next time

Kaye

 

 

Generation X, the Awesome Generation…

Hands up if you were born between the years of 1965 – 1980… you are well and truly my people, the Generation X people. My generation.

As a Gen X myself, born in 1971, I love being a Gen X. I love how we know a lot of things to do with the generations that precedes us, The Greatest Generation – those born between 1901 – 1927, The Silent Generation – those born between 1928 – 1945 and The Baby Boomers – those born between 1965 – 1980 as they are our great grandparents, grandparents, great aunts, great uncles, parents, uncles, aunties but we also know a lot of stuff from the generations that succeeded us as well. We know about things to do with The Millennials or Generation Y – those born between 1981 – 1996, Generation Z – those born between 1997 – 2012 and the latest generation, Generation Alpha – those born between 2013 – 2025, as these are our children, nieces, nephews, grandchildren, great nieces, great nephews, our friends children.

We just have a lot of cross generational knowledge with being a Gen X.

Generation X was the last generation who played in the streets, we were the last generation to record songs from the radio onto a cassette tape, we were the first generation to play video games, we were the first generation to use personal computers, we could walk over a kilometre without complaining about not being driven to our destination, we were the last generation to go to our friends homes to see them, remember having to be home as soon as the streetlights came on? We learned how to work the VCR before anyone else, we lived without mobile (cell) phones, we were the first generation who had Sony Walkman’s, we were before the internet, we were the last generation to drive in cars without seatbelts, we were the first generation to use chatrooms, we only had 4 TV stations to choose from and TV stations closed at midnight, we didn’t have social media, the music was also the best.

Generation X is absolutely the best generation in my books.

Until next time

Kaye

Life lessons…

Here’s a few things that I have learnt about life, so listen up the younger generation.

Kids, time may go slowly for you as you have to wait forever for your next birthday, or Christmas, or for some event you are eagerly awaiting but as you get older, time flies by, days just roll into one at times. I actually enjoy those days that simply drag.

Enjoy your childhood as you are only a child for such a very short time and you miss those years as an adult. I do love it when I get the chance to be a big kid though, being an adult isn’t always about being “grown up”, there is having some fun. Even when you are an adult, keep the “big kid” side of you. Just because you are an adult, doesn’t mean you have to always act like one.

Respect your elders and when the opportunity arises, ask them about their life, nothing better than a real life history lesson.

Life doesn’t revolve around those gadgets you have either. You can actually live without them. You can also live without Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Tik Tok or whatever other social media platform you use too, trust me, I grew up in a time before those things and I did okay. You can actually miss things that are actually going on around you when you are constantly looking at a screen. I definitely precede the technology you enjoy today, and I live to talk about it. Going without my smartphone is for me liberating as no one can reach me… I enjoy going off the grid and not allowing my smartphone to rule my life so when I do back to my smartphone, the messages and whatever I’ve missed will be there ready for me to see it when I’m ready to see it…

Ah, yes, if you think you know everything, believe me, you don’t. We adults may be older but we do happen to know a lot more than you. We have experience, life lessons and a vast amount of knowledge. There are some things you can teach us but we can teach you more.

Another thing, if you want to try and pull a fast one on your parents to get something, forget it. Your parents are onto you already and they have probably tried the same things on their parents growing up but I will give you points for giving it a good try though 😉

Enjoy life as a kid because those times you will never get back.

Until next time…

Kaye