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Happy New Year 2024…

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Goodbye 2023 and hello 2024… what a year 2023 was? 2023 was a tough year for many, including me with many of us facing the storms of life during the year that was but just like any storm, the storm stops raging eventually and the sun comes out again.

Personally, the year was indeed a rough year for me. Life happened in a big way. I learned a lot about myself and a lot about so called friends who ended up being fake friends and not being in my corner at all.

I learned who was in my circle and my circle got smaller as I removed people from my life who weren’t serving my greater good and were draining my energy or creating drama in my life through their own actions and drawing me into their drama.

I also distanced myself from certain people in my life and haven’t removed them completely.

This is what setting healthy boundaries is about. Life isn’t a popularity contest, you’re not going to get along with everyone in life. It’s healthy to have boundaries and either remove people out of your life who aren’t in your circle because not everyone is. There’s many people who will call you friend but will talk about you behind your back, or not show you support when you are going through a storm in life, there’s so called friends who are toxic, fake friends, friends will continuously disrespect you or badmouth you… these people are not your friends.

These are the people to release from your life, even on social media. Set healthy boundaries and have people who accept you for who you are and will show up when you need that support when life hits.

Surround yourself with people who get you and what you are about and don’t try to change you but they bring out the best in you.

It’s even okay to remove family members from your life as well. We need to be able to preserve our inner peace and just because someone is family, they can cause more issues for our inner peace than friends.

I’m okay about losing people in life, both in real life and on social media. I want people who bring out the best in me, people who understand me, people who will be there in both the calm days when the boat is in calm water and during the storms. The storms of life, this too shall pass but it’s worth knowing who is next to you in that boat; someone who will help you bail out the water if the boat starts leaking or someone who will go overboard and swim to shore, leaving you to bail out the water alone in that boat.

Yeah, I’m okay with my circle shrinking. I’m more about me and no longer about keeping certain people around in my circle because they simply have the label of family or friend. 2023 was a year of letting go.

2024 is going to be the year of keeping my circle small and making sure everyone who is in my circle is worth having there.

Until next time…

Kaye

No to bullying or toxic people…

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Anyone who know me knows that I do not tolerate bullying in any kind of way. I do not tolerate the drama started by bullies or toxic people. I will not tolerate any person who enables those people to continue to do what they do by not calling out their bullshit behaviour in turning a blind eye to it in making the bullies and toxic people be accountable for the drama they start.

I do not tolerate those who start dramas and blame others for starting those dramas because they don’t have the ability to accept accountability and be responsible for their actions.

I do not tolerate bullies and toxic people who create drama and blame others for their dramas, then engage others to do their dirty work all because these bullies enjoy gaslighting and then knowing they will have flying monkeys do their dirty work for them as they seek attention.

On Tiktok recently, I have been caught up in the cross hairs of 2 narcissistic, manipulative, passive aggressive bullies who have caused dramas through their lies, their manipulation, their gaslighting, their looking for flying monkies who will side with them and do their dirty work for them because there are those who believe their lies and think these people are good people because they haven’t seen the other side of their personality. One of the people has a “chosen family” of Tiktokkers who turn a blind eye and allow this person to continue bullying others.

Both of these people have sent me direct messages accusing me of creating drama and telling me to stop telling lies to others about them as they do not do drama. These 2 people as narcissists will not see they are the ones who created the dramas they find themselves in and they are the ones who are telling lies all because they refuse to acknowledge they are responsible and need to be accountable and not blame everyone else as they are the ones gaslighting.

I will always stand up to those people who are bullies and who are toxic as I have no time for drama causing attention seekers, nor do I have time or the energy to deal with people who support the bullies and toxic people, so I have ended relationships with these people.

It doesn’t matter who the toxic people are in life, friends, including friends on social media or family even family, as family can be the most toxic people around, you need to put yourself first. You need to protect yourself from the toxic people in life so you can live your best life and be free of toxic people who cause emotional and psychological damage to people they interact with. Just because a toxic person is a family member or a friend, be true to yourself and know that even though you may love these people, you need to be able to set boundaries, or have the strength to walk away.

Until next time

Kaye

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When the universe and life throw stuff at you, you had better be prepared for it, good, bad or indifferent.

Life has throw at me some heavy stuff this year, so much for starting 2023 of on a positive note and starting off the year in a good way.

It seems my 2023 is a continuation of my 2022… one steaming hot pile of manure…

2022 started the year of upheaval in all aspects of my life… work, home, health and the stuff that has happened, without going into detail, it’s been huge and I feel broken deep within.

I’m not writing this for a pity party because I’m not. 2022 was a huge year of upheaval for me, which is continuing into 2023. Despite everything that is going on, I’ve strapped myself into the roller-coaster of life and I’m in for the ride… all the twists, the turns, the sharp corners, going upside down, I’m there for it all.

One thing I’m looking forward to though is after all the tough stuff has been dealt with and I’m on the other side of it all, I look forward to being the butterfly I am going to become.

Through the storms of life, as the storm rages, you’ll go through hard stuff, tough stuff but eventually the storm will pass and you will find yourself in calm waters again. It’s not going to happen overnight but it will happen. Have faith and belief that the storm will pass and you will get through to the other side.

The other thing is that the storms of life are often experiences of personal growth and realising how strong and resilient you really are.

Right now in this storm I’m going through in my life, I picture myself as a caterpillar, then in a cocoon but I know that the beautiful butterfly that I’m about to become, that is worth all the tough stuff life and the universe is handing me right now.

Watch out world… that beautiful butterfly is coming… it’s not going to happen overnight but she’s preparing herself and proving how strong and resilient she is in the process.

Until next time

Kaye