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True friendships…

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Let me ask a question, what makes a friend and what makes a friendship? To me, to have a friend, first you need to be a friend. It’s a clichéd saying but it is a true saying.

I have a select small group of friends, real friend who I know have my back and are there through all times, the good and the rough times. I also have a lot of friends who are really just acquaintances. Then there are the fickle, fair weather friends who are only there when the going is good but are no where to be seen in the tough times.

As I get older, it’s more about quality over quantity with the friends I have as life isn’t a popularity contest and I just want to surround myself with people who are genuine in there friendship and are always around.

I had friends who would try and buy friendship with giving things to me but they always wanted something in return, it was never anything given because they were true friends who gave something out of the generosity of their heart but only given with an ulterior motive. Then there’s the so called friends who kept score on what they gave me as they felt it proved their friendship but felt as though I wasn’t being a true friend all because they expected something in return and try to guilt me into giving them something by telling me all the times they gave me something .

I give the people I consider friends things all the time but I never expect anything in return. I do it because I want to. I don’t make anyone feel obligated to reciprocate the gift giving, even if it’s just a cup of coffee, I never expect anything in return.

Then there are those who will tell you the things they think you want to hear, or pretend to be something they are not in trying to earn a friendship.

For me, I want friends who will be open and honest with me. I want friends who don’t gossip behind my back because if you have friends who talk with you about their friend behind their back, guess what? those people you call a friend, they are saying things about you to other people.

As I get older, I am in a place where I don’t want to deal with so called friends who are disingenuous, fake, full of drama, selfish, self absorbed, toxic or narcissistic people. I have let go of a lot of friends who fit into those categories as I want to be around kind, caring, nurturing people who are always there, who are real, trustworthy, provide a listening ear or a shoulder I can cry on and those make me laugh.

I want people around me that I don’t have to explain myself to, people who don’t judge, friends I can trust wholeheartedly and be trusted, so because of this, I don’t have a big circle of friends and that suits me fine.

Be true to yourself and surround yourself with the people who will serve your greater good and raise your vibration and not drain your energy by making you feel some kind of way just because you feel it necessary to have certain people as friends. Some people are not for you and are not the right fit for you and it is okay to release them as those people definitely not for you as they will only keep bringing you down to their level.

Until next time

Kaye

The things I do…

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Recently I updated my mobile phone and changed providers, a task easier said than done. The time it took for my previous provider to release the phone number to the new provider took weeks. Usually it only take that long but in this instance all because of a process that wasn’t done when I received the new phone from the new provider, there was that delay.

During the 8 weeks it took to get the phone number released and for me to be able to use my new phone as a phone, I was using both my old mobile phone and the new one as I was using the new phone for everything else using wifi, thank you wifi. I also got used to having 2 phones and I liked it.

My new provider was my original provider but to get my last phone, I had to change providers but with the update, I wanted to go back to my original provider.

My last phone, I promised someone else that I would give it to them before I realised that I enjoyed the luxury of having 2 phones, as they needed a new phone as they had a really old phone which they needed to replace.

Once I was back to having one phone again, I was on the lookout for a good, reliable but a cheap phone to use as a second phone, which I found on Amazon as they have refurbished phones in top quality condition and most phones, unless they are the latest, they sell for a cheaper price.

So having updated my Samsung Galaxy S20 to a Samsung Galaxy S23 Plus, I went on Amazon and found a refurbished phone I wanted to buy, an iPhone. I have been curious for a long time about the whole iPhone thing and why people love them so much. I had looked at iPhone’s before I had bought a Samsung Galaxy S5… if you can’t tell, I’m a Samsung and Android girl but I’m open to owning other phone’s. The iPhone I found was an iPhone 13 and bought it.

The phone sellers on Amazon sell refurbished phone’s in good condition, screens get replaced and the phone’s are sold in the best condition possible but buyer beware, you do get what you pay for, so doing prior research on the phone you are interested in does pay off as there are people who have received phone’s with dents and scratches on the phone from wear and tear by the previous owners.

The iPhone I received didn’t have a scratch or a dent on it and it looked brand new out of the non original phone box. The battery condition was at 90%, so I knew I wouldn’t have an issue with battery problems either. I was definitely winning with this phone.

The iPhone I used the provider I left as I wanted the second phone to be under a different provider for when one provider has a technical issue, I have the use of the other phone. Both providers use the same phone tower’s though, so that could prove an issue but hey, I’ll deal with that when I have to. I also wanted the second phone to not be on a contract but prepaid.

I used to have a landline phone years ago before just solely using my mobile phone. The landline phone had an answering machine connected to it as well. Anyone I didn’t want to speak to, I used to give them the landline number as a lot of people don’t like leaving messages on an answering machine lol. Same with services who would sell phone numbers on to telemarketers, they would get the landline number as well. Then when I gave up the landline, I then would change a number in my mobile number so I didn’t have to speak with those I didn’t want to hear from lol.

What I use the second mobile phone for now is these callers and keep my primary phone for the people I want to talk to or need to talk with.

Note to self… put the iPhone on the Do Not Call register.

Does anyone else have a second phone and what do you use it for? I don’t want to know about illegal activities though lol as sometimes ignorance can be bliss lol.

Until next time

Kaye